Comments on: How to Piss Off Your Training Partner, Part 2 http://www.wimsblog.com/2009/05/how-to-piss-off-your-training-partner-part-2/ Wim Demeere's thoughts on Martial Arts and Self Defense Sun, 29 Jan 2012 00:03:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Ikigai http://www.wimsblog.com/2009/05/how-to-piss-off-your-training-partner-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Ikigai Fri, 05 Jun 2009 20:17:38 +0000 http://www.wimsblog.com/?p=269#comment-46 Minding these issues is a good exercise for teachers as well. You have to learn which people are capable of laughing things off and which will store it away as an insult, sexist or otherwise. Men and women both get punked from time to time (it's inevitable). It can be very tricky, especially when trying to keep everyone light and motivated. Minding these issues is a good exercise for teachers as well. You have to learn which people are capable of laughing things off and which will store it away as an insult, sexist or otherwise. Men and women both get punked from time to time (it’s inevitable). It can be very tricky, especially when trying to keep everyone light and motivated.

]]> By: Ikigai http://www.wimsblog.com/2009/05/how-to-piss-off-your-training-partner-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2122 Ikigai Fri, 05 Jun 2009 20:17:00 +0000 http://www.wimsblog.com/?p=269#comment-2122 Minding these issues is a good exercise for teachers as well. You have to learn which people are capable of laughing things off and which will store it away as an insult, sexist or otherwise. Men and women both get punked from time to time (it's inevitable). It can be very tricky, especially when trying to keep everyone light and motivated. Minding these issues is a good exercise for teachers as well. You have to learn which people are capable of laughing things off and which will store it away as an insult, sexist or otherwise. Men and women both get punked from time to time (it’s inevitable). It can be very tricky, especially when trying to keep everyone light and motivated.

]]> By: Wim http://www.wimsblog.com/2009/05/how-to-piss-off-your-training-partner-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-45 Wim Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:40:28 +0000 http://www.wimsblog.com/?p=269#comment-45 @BBM. It's just a sad fact of life that MAs attract macho idiots. Not all of the men in the arts like that but I've sure seen a lot of them. As soon as a woman steps onto the mat, their IQ drops 50 points and the testosterone skyrockets. I can only apologize for my fellow men and hope you don't get to meet too many of the Neanderthal among us. ;-) @BBM. It’s just a sad fact of life that MAs attract macho idiots. Not all of the men in the arts like that but I’ve sure seen a lot of them. As soon as a woman steps onto the mat, their IQ drops 50 points and the testosterone skyrockets. I can only apologize for my fellow men and hope you don’t get to meet too many of the Neanderthal among us. ;-)

]]> By: Black Belt Mama http://www.wimsblog.com/2009/05/how-to-piss-off-your-training-partner-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-44 Black Belt Mama Thu, 04 Jun 2009 19:10:14 +0000 http://www.wimsblog.com/?p=269#comment-44 The women ones are definitely true. Most of the people I train with are great, but every once in a great while I feel the male/female undertone thing and I don't like it all. The other night a comment was made about me "checking my nail" during bunkai. I wasn't checking my nails. I was quickly evaluating where a jagged beater bo had just ripped a huge chunk of my skin off my thumb and making sure I wasn't bleeding all over myself and more importantly my partner. That kind of comment never would have been said to another guy. A long time ago, when I was a new brown belt, I was sparring a teenage white belt with no control. My instructions were to be a moving target and let them just try out their techniques. I asked him to watch the placement of his kicks (I was nursing a baby at the time and he seemed to think my chest was his primary target) and he just kept wailing on me. When I said something again, his dad, another white belt said, "take it easy on her son." I wanted to kill them both. It had nothing to do with me not being able to handle myself and everything to do with him having no control. I was supposed to be taking it easy on them since they were new white belts and I was brown, but I felt like doing anything but taking it easy after that comment. It was a true exercise in mental control for me. The women ones are definitely true. Most of the people I train with are great, but every once in a great while I feel the male/female undertone thing and I don’t like it all.

The other night a comment was made about me “checking my nail” during bunkai. I wasn’t checking my nails. I was quickly evaluating where a jagged beater bo had just ripped a huge chunk of my skin off my thumb and making sure I wasn’t bleeding all over myself and more importantly my partner. That kind of comment never would have been said to another guy.

A long time ago, when I was a new brown belt, I was sparring a teenage white belt with no control. My instructions were to be a moving target and let them just try out their techniques. I asked him to watch the placement of his kicks (I was nursing a baby at the time and he seemed to think my chest was his primary target) and he just kept wailing on me. When I said something again, his dad, another white belt said, “take it easy on her son.” I wanted to kill them both. It had nothing to do with me not being able to handle myself and everything to do with him having no control. I was supposed to be taking it easy on them since they were new white belts and I was brown, but I felt like doing anything but taking it easy after that comment. It was a true exercise in mental control for me.

]]> By: Black Belt Mama http://www.wimsblog.com/2009/05/how-to-piss-off-your-training-partner-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2121 Black Belt Mama Thu, 04 Jun 2009 19:10:00 +0000 http://www.wimsblog.com/?p=269#comment-2121 The women ones are definitely true. Most of the people I train with are great, but every once in a great while I feel the male/female undertone thing and I don't like it all. The other night a comment was made about me "checking my nail" during bunkai. I wasn't checking my nails. I was quickly evaluating where a jagged beater bo had just ripped a huge chunk of my skin off my thumb and making sure I wasn't bleeding all over myself and more importantly my partner. That kind of comment never would have been said to another guy. A long time ago, when I was a new brown belt, I was sparring a teenage white belt with no control. My instructions were to be a moving target and let them just try out their techniques. I asked him to watch the placement of his kicks (I was nursing a baby at the time and he seemed to think my chest was his primary target) and he just kept wailing on me. When I said something again, his dad, another white belt said, "take it easy on her son." I wanted to kill them both. It had nothing to do with me not being able to handle myself and everything to do with him having no control. I was supposed to be taking it easy on them since they were new white belts and I was brown, but I felt like doing anything but taking it easy after that comment. It was a true exercise in mental control for me. The women ones are definitely true. Most of the people I train with are great, but every once in a great while I feel the male/female undertone thing and I don’t like it all.

The other night a comment was made about me “checking my nail” during bunkai. I wasn’t checking my nails. I was quickly evaluating where a jagged beater bo had just ripped a huge chunk of my skin off my thumb and making sure I wasn’t bleeding all over myself and more importantly my partner. That kind of comment never would have been said to another guy.

A long time ago, when I was a new brown belt, I was sparring a teenage white belt with no control. My instructions were to be a moving target and let them just try out their techniques. I asked him to watch the placement of his kicks (I was nursing a baby at the time and he seemed to think my chest was his primary target) and he just kept wailing on me. When I said something again, his dad, another white belt said, “take it easy on her son.” I wanted to kill them both. It had nothing to do with me not being able to handle myself and everything to do with him having no control. I was supposed to be taking it easy on them since they were new white belts and I was brown, but I felt like doing anything but taking it easy after that comment. It was a true exercise in mental control for me.

]]> By: Wim http://www.wimsblog.com/2009/05/how-to-piss-off-your-training-partner-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Wim Sat, 30 May 2009 18:05:54 +0000 http://www.wimsblog.com/?p=269#comment-37 Too true. And then they probably don't get why you're upset with them for getting you injured. "But, but, I held you up?!" Rant away Sara! :-) And give my best to your hubby! Too true. And then they probably don’t get why you’re upset with them for getting you injured. “But, but, I held you up?!”

Rant away Sara! :-) And give my best to your hubby!

]]> By: Sara K. http://www.wimsblog.com/2009/05/how-to-piss-off-your-training-partner-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Sara K. Sat, 30 May 2009 17:47:54 +0000 http://www.wimsblog.com/?p=269#comment-36 Related to #7: It drives me crazy when I'm trying to do my fall after being thrown and my partner tries to "protect" me by holding me up by my arm. Because I'm petite and he's worried the floor's a long way down and the fall might hurt. Yeah, it's not the *floor* that's going to hurt me, it's you hauling up on my arm and trying to dislocate my shoulder that's the problem. Just let me fall. If I haven't been trained how to, why would sensei let me train in this technique in the first place? And the shorter guys I've asked haven't reported this problem, so I don't think it's size-releated. Just seems to be the "protect the girl" instinct. Which is kind of sweet, but has no place on the mat. Thanks for letting me rant, Wim. :-) Related to #7: It drives me crazy when I’m trying to do my fall after being thrown and my partner tries to “protect” me by holding me up by my arm. Because I’m petite and he’s worried the floor’s a long way down and the fall might hurt. Yeah, it’s not the *floor* that’s going to hurt me, it’s you hauling up on my arm and trying to dislocate my shoulder that’s the problem. Just let me fall. If I haven’t been trained how to, why would sensei let me train in this technique in the first place? And the shorter guys I’ve asked haven’t reported this problem, so I don’t think it’s size-releated. Just seems to be the “protect the girl” instinct. Which is kind of sweet, but has no place on the mat.

Thanks for letting me rant, Wim. :-)

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