Patreon Overview: June 2019 – January 2020

I just noticed I hadn’t done an update about my Patreon page since May of last year. Oops…

My Patreon page is a membership site with online training on martial arts and self-defense along with a community of like-minded people. The video archive now has over 58 hours of exclusive content not available elsewhere and every month about 75min. is added.  We also do a monthly 1-hour Livestream hangout in our private Facebook group, which is also available for re-viewing afterward. The best part about Patreon is that you get full access to the entire library immediately after joining, so take a few days off and dive in. :-)

The support from my Patrons is what keeps everything I do going:

  • It pays for my web host, which was critical for the blog as I was forced to upgrade to a higher plan due to the large volume of visitors. Don’t get me wrong, I am thrilled that so many of you visit my blog, but to make sure the traffic didn’t slow down the site to a crawl, a big investment was critical. Without my Patrons, that $825 bill would have been too expensive.
  • The podcast needs hosting too. I use Libsyn and am very happy with them, but the monthly bill needs to be paid too.
  • All equipment is financed by my Patrons: the Yeti microphone I use to record the podcast, the tripod to record videos in class, the software I use to do my analysis videos, the storage solution I very much needed because my laptop was running out of disk space, etc. Together, that boils down to a nice chunk of change…
  • Production of my books and instructional videos is also paid with the support of my Patrons: editing, formatting, cover creation, renting equipment for video shoots, renting studio’s, etc.

The bottom line is that I am self-employed and I don’t make anything if I’m not working. so the blog and all my other online activities need to be self-sustaining at the minimum. Otherwise, it is just a very expensive hobby that I can’t afford with one kid already in college and the other one starting later this year. So if you enjoy my work, please consider supporting it on Patreon.

As I don’t think you should do so for free, I give lots of unique content in return, which you can read about here below. The reward tiers start at as low as $3 and you can stop any time you like.


There is way too much to cover for one post, so it is more practical to direct you to where you can find specifics:

  • You can view everything we did month-by-month or by reward tier by clicking on the drop-down menu on the “Posts” tab.  Just scroll down the page to see everything, including the posts on my timeline that I didn’t mention here. If you click on the tags (the small thumbnails just underneath that drop-down menu), you get to see everything else, which is quite a bit by now.

For a quick visual representation, here are all of them from June to January below in a low-resolution image. You can see the high-res one here.

There is a lot more to come, including an exclusive bonus offer I am working on now: a small ebook that complements my Boxing for Self-Defense book. So stay tuned for more.

If you want to join us there and support my blog and podcast, head on over and sign up at whatever reward tier works for you. Thanks!

Training to take a life

This article was originally published in my Patreon Newsletter a long time ago. The topic of training to take a life came up recently in my Facebook group and it made me think of what I learned from one of my informal teachers. One of the most important lessons he ever taught me was this:

“One needs embrace neither hatred nor anger to identify and kill an enemy.”


Adhering to this concept has many implications. It changes how you train and act, but also how you view the world. I won’t cover everything, but some things stand out right away. In the Facebook group, we talked about the importance of including mercy in your training as well. Not every fight is to the death and training as if it is has a cost attached to it should you ever use your training to take a life. That’s what I will talk about below.

Here goes:


Training to take a life? You serve them.

I posted this quote on my Patreon page about a year ago.  A friend of mine wrote it in an email to me. He passed away last year, and I still miss him dearly.

In that post, I wrote “Hatred and anger do not serve you, you serve them” and I stand by those words. It dawned on me that I never really explained them, so here goes.

First, some more about his background. He was one of the smartest people I have ever known, a true Renaissance man. He led an incredible and varied life, some of it you wouldn’t believe me if I told you. I am not gullible and obviously verified some of what he told me; it checks out. I have no reason to believe he ever lied to me, on the contrary. My point is that his knowledge and wisdom came from surviving extremely violent situations not once, but on a routine basis. That kind of thing gives you a very different perspective on life than most people have.

He spent several decades in the military and fought in three wars. He was involved in black ops and was on the ground during certain conflicts you learn about in the history books. Though you couldn’t see it in his demeanor, he was a fierce man. To give you an idea: when he came out of his SERE training, the first thing he said was “This was great. Let’s do it again.” and went back for a second time.

He saw combat and knew what it was to take a life. He also knew the consequences of doing so. That was one of the things he taught me; what it truly means to take somebody’s life by force. I don’t often write about this because too many keyboard warriors talk tough about this subject already. I don’t want to get dragged into discussions with those guys if I can help it so usually, I reserve certain topics for in-person conversations.

Training to take a life

I stayed at his house over ten years ago and wanted a picture of us and the dogs altogether, just for me. He agreed and said the picture needed something more. So he went away and when he came back, he handed me the two guns with a smile on his face. This picture was taken right after. I have blurred his face out of respect for his wife and family so they can remain anonymous too.


Death is final, living with taking a life too.

As to the quote, it is one of the key lessons Slugg taught me and this for a variety of reasons:

First, because it is the hallmark of the professional, which is what my friend was most of all. For the professional, killing is a tool in the toolbox. It is not to be celebrated or enjoyed, nor avoided at all cost. Sometimes, it is what needs to be done and then you do so with efficiency. Hate and anger have no place in that mindset. They only get in the way.

Dehumanization training is often a part of the preparation for military (and other violent) conflicts. More insights about that here. Though stripping the enemy of his humanity works, it is not the end-stage in the development of the professional. There is a mindset beyond it, which I described above: taking the enemy’s life is a “mechanical” act, for lack of a better term. It doesn’t require emotional investment. We could argue whether cultivating this ability is a good or a bad thing for the individual soldier, but that’s beyond the scope of this article. The point stands: there is more than one way to train somebody to take a life.

Second, though hate and anger can certainly drive a person to take another’s life, they also cloud your judgment. This impairs the decision-making process and limits tactical thinking. Neither is a good thing when it comes to surviving violent situations where lethal force is on the table. If you need to use emotions to whip yourself into a state where you can kill, the person dying might just be you. Because you can be sure that your opponent will do all he can to exploit any mistake you make as you get carried away by them…

Finally, all the reasons why you decide to take a life need to make sense when you are no longer in danger. Because from that point on, you have a lifetime to relive your actions and second-guess your motivations and decisions.

Was it really the only option to kill that man? Really? Was there nothing else you could have done?

What about the events that led up to it? Did you drop the ball there? Was there something you messed up or neglected to do that put you on the path of leaving you no other option but to kill?

The questions you’ll have to face are endless and they can haunt you to the point of breaking your spirit.

Granted, not everybody suffers these doubts to the same degree and some don’t suffer them at all. But a whole lot of people do. The problem is that you’ll only know in which category you fall once it’s too late to change a thing about it. You better be damned sure of how justified you are before you pull that trigger. Because that justification needs to stand the test of time and anger or hate very often don’t cut it in the long run. Also bear in mind: I haven’t even touched on the legal consequences of your actions…


Training to take a life? Think it through before you need your training.

All this is one of the many reasons why I advocate avoidance and de-escalation when it comes to conflict in general and in particular to situations leading to lethal use of force.

Training to take life changes you.

Doing it changes you even more.

Either way, you might not like what you become.

Podcast episode 44: Review of 2019 and looking forward to 2020

The first episode of the new year! I look back to some of the highlights of 2019 and then talk extensively about what I have in store for you in 2020. Spoiler: it’s a lot…

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Podcast episode 43: Boxing for Self-Defense

It’s finally here! After loads of blood, sweat, and tears, Boxing for Self-Defense is published. Both the ebook and paperback versions are available right now and non-Amazon retailers will follow soon. It’s been a road filled with difficulties to both write this book and then get it published. In this episode, I talk about that, what the book is, about and what comes next.


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